Thursday, January 9, 2020

2020 goals :: Stages of life

We're well into 2020, it's time to talk about those New Year's goals/resolutions. I am a big fan of planning and setting goals. Setting goals gives your life direction, boosts your motivation and self-confidence. Before sharing my goals for 2020, I wanted to look back on my 20's, 30's and what I am looking for in my 40's.

My 20's: I graduated from college when I was 23. Got married a few short weeks after graduation. I don't know what the heck I was thinking. At 23, I thought I could conquer the world. I don't regret any decisions I've made in my life but I would for sure do things differently if I could turn back time. Decisions I made shape my destiny. I spent my 20's figuring out my identity and my blueprint for life. At 29, I decided to call it quits because the level of happiness and fulfillment in my marriage weren't growing. We were just going though life instead of experiencing life together.

My 30's: I spent all my 30's planning and working on the life I have always wanted. Everyone's definition of perfect is different and therefore, there is no such thing as perfection. I wanted a loving and supportive family. I wanted to create a close knit family and build a trusting relationship. I want to be able to tell everyone that if everything was taken away from me, we still can rebuild this life as long as we have each other. I am so grateful to have found someone who always has my back and knows what's best for me. I am going to share something that might be a bit too personal but I wanted you to know that true love does exist. During one of those "serious" conversations that my husband and I had months ago. He told me "we're not going to live forever. At my funeral, I want you to be able to tell everyone that I am the best thing that ever happened to you" I lost it. I feel very fortunate to be able to experience the connection that we have. The 30’s have been my best decade. We made some big life decisions together, we worked extremely hard (and still do) to achieve financial freedom (I still remember the time when we had $50 in our checking account). There was a time when my husband traveled every single week for work and I had to be at home holding down the fort. I worked at a grocery store when I first came to the U.S. I worked full time (2nd shift from 3:30 p.m - midnight though college). Thank goodness those days are over. My parents didn't have a lot of money. Both of us do not come from money. We work hard for everything we have.

My 40's: I'll be 42 in September and I say it proudly. Age is just a number. I think I look decent for my age and I certainly don't feel old. I don't see massive changes in the next few years. As mentioned in this post, we've worked hard during the past 5 years to build a solid foundation for our family. I'll take the next few years to build a strong bond with my girls. The older one will be off to college soon and I have a few years with the little one before she becomes a teenager.

My 50's: I plan to pay off our mortgage before I hit 50. That's one of my main goals. The older one will be in college by then. We'll put 100% of our focus towards the kids' college once the mortgage is paid off. I pray that my parents will still be with us especially my Dad (he'll be 80 this November). Another goal of mine is to own a vacation home somewhere (if our budget allows). Outfit details: Sweater dress | Sunglasses | Similar boots
My goals for 2020:

Fitness goals:
  1. Log 1000 miles this year. Running is and always will be something I love doing. I haven't signed up for any official races yet but I want to run 1000 miles in 2020
  2. Try new fitness classes: As much as I love running, it can be really hard on my joins. I want to step out of my comfort zone and try new fitness classes. I already sign up for a pilates and pure barre class. I am looking forward to both.
  3. Drink more water
  4. Eat more greens
Personal development goals:
  1. Practice patience: I wake up at 5:00 a.m everyday. When 7:00 p.m comes around, I have little to no patience for my kids. I want to learn how to control my emotions and pick my battles
  2. Be more involved with my kids' school: I know that I need to be more involved in the kids' school but having a 9-5 job, it's not always easy to do so. This year, I want to make it a priority.
Professional development goals:
  1. Learn one or two new skill at work: Automation is something that I wanted to learn for years (if you're in IT, you might be familiar with it). I will make it happen this year whether taking a training or learning it myself.
  2. Become a certified ScrumMaster: Again, if you work in IT, you would know what it is. I actually already scheduled the training at the end of this month. Looking forward to learn more about it.
Financial goals:
  1. Set a specific number for our savings account: I set the same goal for 2019 but unfortunately, we didn't archive it due to unforeseen expenses. This year, I am going to put a plan in place and hope to hit the target by 12/31.

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